Excerpt About Inquiry (Dialectic)
Whatever our situation, we are open as we talk: There is openness, there is genuineness, there is contact, there is truthfulness; and it is all in a field, a pool of consciousness, that can open up or close down. Whichever happens, it is fine—you just want to explore what’s there.
“It seems that we are all tense and don’t want to talk to each other. I wonder what happened?”
And the other person says, “I don’t really know. I feel the same way. I feel like I want to go away. I want to talk to this other person over there.”
“Why? What happened for you?”
Maybe both of you were really shy and, after ten minutes of exploration, you realize that you like each other but you don’t want to know that, much less let the other person know, because it means you will be vulnerable. “If I show that I really like you—who knows? Maybe you won’t like me.” So people get a little protective. All kinds of surprises can happen. We call this “dialectic inquiry”—there is a dialectic, an interaction of two forces merging together and becoming one vortex, one force. Two souls connect, becoming one. Inquiring into this combined consciousness develops the relationship, and the relationship can become a means of developing the individuals who are in it.