Excerpt About Ego Alien
Ego Syntonic and Ego Alien PerspectivesLet's consider a person who is habitually critical and judgmental of other people... The criticalness is seen as "ego syntonic" for this individual; that is, it is in accord with his personality and does not feel alien or undesirable to him. It goes along with, and is part of, the person's conception of himself. It is not felt as disharmonious with his well-being. A trait, like criticalness, has to become "ego-alien" for a person to do something about it, or even to see it as an issue to be understood. "Ego-alien" means that it is experienced as being alien to the ego, as not consistent with the person’s interests, as conflicting with the rest of him.