Excerpt About Divine Eros
One characteristic of divine eros that makes it a more complete expression of yourself is that you lose control. In a sexual encounter, there is a sense of surrender, of release, throughout the whole interaction, not only during orgasm. The absence of control, the release and surrender, is present all the way from the beginning. You lose control over your love, you lose control over your desire, and you lose control over your enjoyment, which makes the love, desire, and enjoyment arise more spontaneously and makes you less self-conscious and more at ease with each other.