Excerpt About Betrayal
Our Choiceless ChoiceThe development of and identification with the self-representations is, of course, not simply a result of the student turning away from her essential self. Many other factors determine this development. However she has participated, wittingly or unwittingly, in the process of going to sleep, of turning away from the aspects of her soul that her environment could not or would not recognize. She did it to survive, because the loneliness and hurt were intolerable; nevertheless she did participate. Understanding her choiceless choice, her extreme dependence on her early caregivers, helps her now to acknowledge her part in the betrayal and feel compassion about the untenable position she found herself in early childhood.