Wanting
Wanting things a certain way, wanting things to be different,
wanting to change yourself, wanting your situation to change,
wanting feelings to change is not an effective approach, because
you can only want things to change according to what you know.
What needs to happen is something you don't know and the only
way it can happen is for you to stop the movement of trying to
change things and just let yourself be open and say, "I don't
know what is supposed to happen. Why don't I stop all this business
and just allow things to happen." If anything new is going
to happen, it's got to come from somewhere else, not from your
ideas about things. (Diamond Heart Book 2, pg 105)