Relationship to the Teaching
This means that your relationship to the teaching must be one
of respect, consideration, love, appreciation, gratitude, and
service, always, at all times, regardless of your particular momentary
feelings and opinions, because that is the attitude you need to
have toward your Essence. By learning and understanding your relationship
to the teaching, you will be able to actualize the true relationship
to your Essence, for the teaching is a true expression of Essence.
It is expected that various manifestations of the Work –
tasks, aims, regulations, whatever – will produce certain
reactions in you. Whatever the reactions are, they are to be understood
and not to be acted out, regardless of what the reactions are.
Otherwise you are taking the side of your false personality against
your Essence. (Diamond Heart Book 1, pg 193)

Making a correct relationship to the teaching will create the
correct relationship to your Essence. And the beautiful thing
is that if you do, you are being there. You are being what you’re
looking for! So, even in giving to the Work, you are being given
to. That is the situation, and this situation must eventually
be understood and actualized. (Diamond Heart Book 1, pg 196)