Rejection
Thus one of the ways that an attitude of rejection develops is
through identification with the rejecting attitude of the environment
in early childhood. This is why early in our work we learn how
to defend against the superego. At the beginning, and for a long
time, we need to defend against the superego so that we are able
to experience ourselves more objectively. We need to defend from
superego attacks and judgments not only because the attacks are
painful but more importantly to be able to look at what is there.
(Diamond Heart Book 2, pg 83)