Loss
When you experience loss and separation you have the possibility
of seeing that what was filling you wasn’t really you. If
you stay with the hurt and the pain of loss without trying to cover
this pain with something else, it is possible that you will feel
the emptiness, feel the hole, see the hole. Then if you allow yourself
to feel the deficiency, the emptiness, you may find the essential
part of you that will really fill the hole, from the inside, once
and for all. It’s not even filling; it is just the elimination
of the hole and the identifications with the deficiency. In that
way, you regain part of yourself. You connect with the part of your
Essence that you lost, and that you thought only somebody else could
provide for you. (Diamond Heart Book 1, pg 20)