A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W Y

 

Death

Death Space
Defending
Defense
Deficient Emptiness
Depression
Destiny
Development
Developmental Psyc.
Diamond Approach
Diamond Consciousness
Diamond Dome
Diamond Guidance
Diamond Issues
Diamond Vehicles
Dimensions
Direct Perception
Discipline
Discrimination
Disidentification
Dissolution
Dissolving
Distortion
Divine Light
Divine Love
Dreaming
Duality
Dynamic Presence
Dynamism

Defending

Defending yourself is to defend against the superego, whether it is external or internal. The purpose of the superego is to preserve the ego's point of view. The superego ultimately stops you from seeing reality. Defending yourself is one method you use to help you look at things objectively and without fear. When you start learning how to defend yourself against the superego you can't help but think in terms of having a self to defend. Ultimately what is actually defended is the openness, the understanding and the awareness. In time, we learn that understanding and awareness are the best defenses. When the awareness is complete, there is nothing to defend. (Diamond Heart Book 2, pg 146)

 

 

Defending Against Separation And Individuation

There is another, more fundamental, reason why individuals usually revert to negative object relations, and especially negative merging, in order to defend against experiences of separation and individuation. To understand this reason we need to know specifically the nature of the primitive affect that characterizes negative merging. It has in it all the negative affects: anger, rage, hatred, pain, fear, anxiety and so on. But there is a specific affect that is always present, which characterizes negative merging and is independent from the other painful emotional states. This is the basic painful affect in the symbiotic phase, the feeling of frustration when the child's needs are not met adequately and immediately. (The Pearl Beyond Price, pg 253)