Appearance
There appear to be two realities or two truths. It seems that
reality is not just one thing, but two things. The first is appearance,
or what we call conventional truth. The second is fundamental
truth. The appearance of reality is what you perceive all the
time, what you see and experience. Everything that appears to
your senses is the conventional truth. That’s why we call
it appearance – it appears to your consciousness. The more
basic reason it is called appearance is that in relation to the
ultimate or fundamental truth – which is the reality itself
– it is clear that conventional truth is only the way things
appear. It is not really how things are. We need to understand
as deeply as possible that the appearance of things – of
everyone and everything, of the whole universe – is not
reality. (Diamond Heart Book 4, pg 169)

Appearance and change
To live in the world and to know yourself, you have to take
both worlds into consideration: reality and the appearance of
reality. When you believe only in the apparent world, you create
all kinds of ideas about how things should happen. Sickness comes
and you push it away; health comes and you hold on to it. Misery
comes, you try to push it away; happiness comes and you try to
hold on to it, and you increase your suffering even more. When
you realize how things actually are, you know that things simply
change; appearance changes, but it is not actually death, and
rebirth, sickness, health. Never has it been different, never
since the dawn of consciousness has anything actually changed.
We see something coming out of something we call it birth. We
see something that used to move, stops moving, we call it death.
We have created these words to describe certain changes of appearance.
(Diamond Heart Book 4, pg 182-183)

Reality and appearance
However, when we realize the reality and see that it is actually
the ground without which the appearance could not exist, then
the world of appearance transforms. It becomes more harmonious.
It becomes the world of appearance rather than the world of suffering,
success and failure. It becomes a world which is an expression
of love and compassion and goodness and value. The appearance
then is an expression of the beauty of reality. (Diamond Heart
Book 4, p178)

The qualities of Essence are the first words. The aspects are
the first concepts; they are universal concepts, the archetypal
states of being. They are more connected to the fundamental reality
than the world of appearance, but they are part of the world of
appearance; Essence appears to us. Or, more accurately, experiences
of Essence are glimpses of fundamental reality, viewed from the
world of appearance. (Diamond Heart Book 4, p 185)